Going Tyler Durden:
How to be the Ultimate Version of Yourself
Every man has got an inner Tyler Durden waiting to be unleashed.
Get insider tips on how to be the best man you can be – here are 6 ways to transform yourself into a sharper, greater looking, irresistible chick magnet with respectable traits and complete mastery over the art of being a man.
“All the ways you wish you could be, that’s me. I look like you wanna look, I f*ck like you wanna f*ck, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways you are not.”
– Tyler Durden from Fight Club (1999)
You envy that guy sitting in the middle of the bar – beautiful women surround him, he has a great fashion sense that you could never pull off, and he has this mysterious, magnetic and yet seemingly effortless energy.
“How does he do it?” you ask yourself.
We all hit a low point in life when we realize that we’re not quite as great as we once thought we were. Whether you feel completely emasculated after 3 years of being in a toxic relationship with your crazy ex-girlfriend, have just been fired from a job you sort of liked bragging about to your friends, or failed to reach your fitness goals despite all that time spent at the gym, it doesn’t matter. You’re here now and you’re ready for an epic boot camp that’s going to completely remold your life for the better.
Some assume that being a man equals packing on tons of muscle, having a high alcohol tolerance, owning a sick bachelor’s pad, making copious amounts of money and being the main eye-candy for the girls at the bar. Once you reach the early beginnings of your 30s, however, you will realize that those traits kind of make you a jerk, and a lonely one at that. As a 38-year-old man who’s arguably encountered quite a bit of success in life, I would have to say that “manning up” are not exactly the right words to use when describing masculinity and empowerment. It’s more about growing up, being comfortable in your own skin, learning from your mistakes and having the desire to constantly put your best foot forward.
So what does it take to become a “real man”? The answer to that question already lies within you. It’s simply up to you to decide whether or not you want to find out. However, you are lucky enough to have landed on this article, meaning you don’t have to do it all alone. We will share some very useful tips that should you be serious about this man-upgrade, deserve to be woven into your current lifestyle.
To successfully follow these tips and complete this self-transformation journey, we need you to give us your word that you will be fully determined and disciplined. Don’t just p*ssy out midway through and entirely forget why you even started in the first place. Remember – “a man never goes back on his word.”
6. LEARN MANLY SKILLS.
There are skills that every man should at the very least, attempt to master. Here are 6 of the manliest skills that you definitely need to start working on to sharpen your abilities and put your physical and/or mental limits to the test:
- How to fight another man
- How to play poker (and win)
- How to hike & camp in the wilderness without electronics
- How to become a handy-man when the situation calls for it (that includes the roof, the toilet, the car, the lamps in the house, etc.)
- How to jump-start a car
- How to cut and carve wood
The point of learning these skills is not just to be more adept overall in life but also to prove to yourself that are you capable of doing what most men are scared to even try.
5. Keep a Cool Mind.
Our tip: learn how to relax, think things out rationally and be comfortable with your emotions.
A dignified man knows how to keep a cool mind even when things are rough. People respect those who are able to stay calm and be composed regardless how stressful the situation they are in is. If you’re under pressure and you easily lose your temper, you come off as unreliable because you instantly prove your lack of emotional control. The same rule applies with how you present yourself. Walking into a room with your head held high and your chest puffed out doesn’t exactly make you come across as an honorable man. If anything, it makes you look cocky and sort of like a desperate attention-seeker. Our tip: learn how to relax, think things out rationally and be comfortable with your emotions.
4. Dominate the Dating Game.
Moving past basic rules like keeping chivalry alive and being a good listener, there are rules more appropriate for the dating game in today’s day and age. With the rise in technology, dating has become quite a difficult, almost vicious process that requires utmost precision.
For example: You met a girl at a party and she seemed pretty cool, you guys hit it off, exchanged numbers and now you know she’s expecting you to text first because…well, gender roles. When she texts you back, however, there’s this unspoken rule that you need to give it 10-15 minutes before replying or else you’ll come off as being too pushy, and she’ll assume that you’re in it just for the sex. If you actually make the effort to call and text her at a daily basis out of kindness, then she’ll probably think that you’re keen for a serious relationship…which you may not be.
If you actually make the effort to call and text her at a daily basis out of kindness, then she’ll probably think that you’re keen for a serious relationship…which you may not be.
So here is an extra set of rules applicable to 21st century dating:
Number #1 – Be persistent but not creepy. Women love it when you have to fight for their attention. But at the same time, sending a d*ck pic on the first few weeks of texting is a definite red flag to her.
Number #2 – Both your Tinder and Facebook profiles should not be: a selfie, a photo of you in the bathroom shirtless, a photo of you with 5 other guy friends (on Tinder this has been shown to be less successful), or a photo of you looking super wasted. Choose a picture that proves you’re a real man who doesn’t have time for silly games.
Number #3 – If you don’t like her, if you’re not eager to meet up anymore, if you’re set on continuing the single life for a couple of more years, tell her. Be straight up. Don’t just ignore her messages and leave the conversation to die. Be decent and respectfully tell her that whatever it is you have in mind.
3. When Necessary, Have The Balls To Take The Blame.
A more respectable characteristic is the ability to take the blame and apologize when you have made a mistake.
Honesty hour: As men, we hate being wrong and most importantly we hate being proven wrong. We have a natural inclination to constantly have a hard face on, to not be vulnerable and to never show our sensitive side. Sometimes, though, whether or not you’d like to admit it, you are wrong.
Showing other people how macho you are and trying to find a way to make yourself seem like you have a point (even though you don’t) can actually get pretty embarrassing. A more respectable characteristic is the ability to take the blame and apologize when you have made a mistake.
2. Give A Sh*t About Your Looks.
Do it not just for the ladies, but also for yourself. By making an effort to look polished and to take care of your body, you are really doing yourself a big favor. Giving attention to your appearance does not mean obsessing over it and prioritizing it over everything else – that’s superficiality and that’s frankly not attractive.
Basically, take care of your looks but make it (look) effortless. We recommend signing up to a local gym and going at least 3-4 times a week. You don’t need to go online and buy 7 different muscle-building supplements if that’s not your thing, but getting a simple pre-workout and preparing healthy meals does pay off. A real man knows that he should keep his body fit and in top shape without going overboard. Think back to Tyler Durden – his arms fit his t-shirts but they’re not overly bulky and his abs are defined but aren’t overwhelming to look at. If you really hate lifting weights at the gym and don’t like the idea of sharing a room with other sweaty men then workout at home. For instance, discipline yourself to do 50 push-ups, 50 sit-ups and 50 pull-ups every single morning before you start the day.
You don’t need to go online and buy 7 different muscle-building supplements if that’s not your thing, but getting a simple pre-workout and preparing healthy meals does pay off.
As for fashion, think classy rather than cool. Get a suit that fits just right and can work for pretty much all occasions, get a nice watch and wear it religiously, and finally, throw out anything in your wardrobe that screams college-boy. Comb your hair (or use gel if you need to), get a sexy-smelling perfume and don’t be lazy to shave when the beard is starting to look ridiculously scruffy (unless you can pull it off).
Do these things and you will feel more confident, you will have higher motivation to get things done, and you will finally look like the man you’ve always to be.
1. Get Yourself A Testosterone-Boosting Supplement, Pronto.
The older you get, the less testosterone you have, which is why you might feel like you’re completely out of batteries when you hit your 40s or 50s.
There’s nothing manlier than testosterone. And that’s the hormone you need if you want to be the kind of guy who wakes up feeling energized, who can perform well and impress in the bedroom, who has the motivation to workout, who has a good body and can build muscle. The older you get, the less testosterone you have, which is why you might feel like you’re completely out of batteries when you hit your 40s or 50s.
There are natural supplements available that can support testosterone production and keep your testosterone levels healthy. The natural ingredients within these supplements basically work by doing the same things you body instinctively does when it detects lowered testosterone levels. And no, they’re not going to make you look like no-neck meatheads with absurdly veiny arms.
We’ve experimented with tons of different testosterone boosting supplements over the last 5 years so we definitely know which ones are worth forking your money over for. Here are 8 of our favorite ingredients that when used at proper dosages can effectively enhance sex drive, muscle strength, energy and endurance without causing side effects:
• D-Aspartic Acid: Can boost testosterone by 40% in two weeks.
• Panax Ginseng: Increases libido and erection strength by lowering anxiety.
• Zinc: Maintains healthy testosterone levels and overall health.
• Magnesium: A deficiency in Magnesium is associated with poor testosterone levels.
• Vitamin D3: A natural mineral used by the body to produce energy and testosterone.
• Oyster Extract: Enhances sex drive and triggers muscle growth.
• Fenugreek Extract: Increases energy, physical strength, stamina and libido.
• EGCG: An active substance in Green tea that reduces anxiety and helps to stimulate increased testosterone production.
So how can you get many or all of these testosterone-boosting supplements for a good price? After trying out over 30 different supplement stacks, our favorite pick is UpLift. UpLift is a high-quality supplement that blends 12 powerful testosterone-enhancing ingredients at just the right amounts. 90 days into using UpLift, we felt a significant increase in sex drive, experienced high energy levels and motivation throughout the day, and saw an improvement with muscle power and endurance. Read our full review of UpLift and a week-by-week log of our experiences with the product here. You won’t regret it!
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